Sunday Bloody Sunday

As a teenager and while in college, I worked part-time at my neighborhood grocery store. It was a more “upscale” local chain known for its excellent customer service.  I worked every weekend, 7 a.m. to mid-afternoon because I went to school during the week. Eventually, I transferred from checkout to the floral department and lucky for me, not many churchgoers bought flowers on Sundays after church unless they were going to the cemetery to visit someone’s grave. Those customers were usually sweet and sad. I liked them.

However, I didn’t much care for the influx of customers parading around in their Sunday best, chests puffed out with pride  (a cardinal sin). I remember that quite a few times, I had customers say something rude about the fact that I was working on the Lord’s day and not in church. If I didn’t have to work, I still wouldn’t have been in church as I stopped attending at age 12.

The arrogant churchgoing customers I helped looked down their noses at me, snapped their fingers like I was a dog, refused to answer my questions and huffed if they thought I was working too slowly. Cool, I’ll just trim your flowers so that they wilt in a day, not in a week or I’ll pick out the nastiest, most blown-open flowers I have because you refuse to sully your graced-by-God fingers picking them out yourself and you won’t notice because you’re feeling too high and mighty to actually inspect your purchase.

As for an apology note, I don’t need or want one. “I’m sorry” is the most meaningless phrase in the English language. Actions speak louder than words, so go out on Sunday and act like you have some “Christ-like” humility and appreciate your server and your service and tip well. Appreciate anyone who is working on a Sunday. Vote for politicians  and support leaders who will make it easier for the people who work hard serving your meals, sacking your groceries, ringing up the gifts you buy at the mall at Christmas  to make a living. Vote to raise the minimum wage for ALL workers.

9 thoughts on “Sunday Bloody Sunday”

  1. Thank you for sharing your story on our site. You said you didn’t want an apology. I’ll respect that. You also said to put action to what we’re saying. That is exactly what we hope will happen through this website. We hope that people will realize their “holier than thou” attitudes and how condescending it is.
    When you said people snapped their fingers at you…I just can’t imagine doing that to someone. But over and over, others have posted that people have treated them that way. It amazes me that people would do that.
    You said you left church when you were 12. I don’t know where you live, but I wish you could come to a church like ours. I’m sure there are churches in your city just like mine. We celebrate that our church isn’t designed for just “churchy people.” We’re designed to connect everyone to God.
    Thank you for sharing your experience with us. It means alot! – Pastor Chad Roberts

    1. I found out about this site through an online article, and I have to admit that I am absolutely shocked by what I am reading. I had absolutely no idea that this type of behavior is going on. I am a Christian, and I want you to know that I make a point to tip waitstaff (usually 20%), and I treat everyone I meet with dignity and respect. If I go to a restaurant where you order at the counter, I make a point to leave my table/booth better than I found it. I never, ever leave anything on the table.

      I know you said that “I’m sorry” is meaningless, but I do want you to know that not all Christians are like this.

      On a last note, since you brought it up: raising the minimum wage would not accomplish anything – it only makes costs go up for everyone, including the people that it is supposed to help.

  2. As a Christian whose mother was a waitress for many years, I am a strong advocate of strong tippers. I have put extra tip on the table to make up for the lousy tip given by the other people at my table. I choose to have them be upset with me then to give a waitress a bad tip. Please accept my
    Apologies for my fellow B to there and sisters in Christ.

  3. Forgiveness is the only thing that conquers bitterness and I’m sorry is not meaningless if someone really means it in there heart and tries to do better. Also, the other person’s comment was correct. I have worked in a small chain when the minimum wage was raised last time. They raised there prices and laid off people. Having a job is better then not having one and minimum wage is not meant for people to make a living, it is a starting point. You can be sure if it is raised you are going to see worse service for having to fire people and the price of a fast food burgers going up to $10.00. Does someone really want to pay that?

    1. “…minimum wage is not meant for people to make a living, it is a starting point.”

      WRONG. A person working full-time, no matter what the job, should earn enough to make a living. Period, end of story. Most people working full-time in minimum wage jobs are adults supporting themselves and often families as well. The implied talking point that only teenagers work these jobs for a little spending money is incorrect and insulting to hard-working adults everywhere.

  4. In high school and college I worked Sunday’s. And I’ve been a part of the church crowd. Today, as the pastor of a church, I try to avoid shopping and eating out on Sundays. I figure I can’t expect people to be in church if they are waiting on me.

    I agree that apologies can be just words. But sometimes the sayer needs to say the words before meaningful change can take place. As for me, I will be vigilant and try to point out the behavior as some others have done.

  5. To those of you commenting that raising the minimum wage would not accomplish anything, please be aware that the minimum wage for servers is under $3/hr. Restaurants pay us not one dime (that $2.13 goes directly to Uncle Sam). I’m going to assume you thought servers made a normal wage like every other profession, instead of getting upset.

    1. To the persons comment on minimum wage. Yes, I was a server and know they don’t get paid M.W. I meant in general and the lady said she worked with flowers at a grocery store which means she does make M.W. The place I was talking about was a pizza place where they also made M.W. and my point is still a valid one!

      1. no your point isn’t valid
        Please read up on history. (http://www.dol.gov/dol/aboutdol/history/flsa1938.htm)
        Minimum wage was set so that factory workers, miners mill workers etc could make a living wage . If they paid their ceos less than the millions they pay, i’m sure it would make up the difference and yes i’d be willing to pay 10 dollars for a burger if it meant a min wage worker could make a living and our taxes could be used for something other than food stamps and medicaid because people are not paid a living wage

        Also no matter what and apology/saying sorry doesn’t help anything. It doesn’t change past transgressions, it often doesn’t change behaviors and it is often said to make the person saying it feel better about the wrong thing they did.

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